Two months ago, a stranger asked me this in Formspring. It’s only recently that I was able to properly think about what I would really do should that happen. Probably because this is an issue that somehow hits home.
Well, for one, I believe that couples are responsible for each other. It’s their responsibility to make sure that the other person feels loved, special, safe and cared for, no matter what. These days, it’s easy to do away with the tiny details that make up a relationship. That’s why it’s important to nurture love and make sure it grows, lest it will stagnate over time and be doomed to die.
There’s only one thing I’m sure of—one-sided love is not love. Before, I believed that as long as ½ of the relationship holds on, it will be fine. A couple of bad experiences later, I learned that it’s better to be alone than invest on that kind of relationship.
To whoever asked me that question (who I think might be a stranger lurking around in my blog), don’t get stuck in hopes too much. Never allow yourself to be neglected. I’m pretty sure that life will only get busier as the days go by, so if he/she does not have the time for you now, when will he/she ever have the time for you in the future?
Don’t settle for anything less than what you deserve. I’m sure there’s someone out in the world who will find making you happy, a pleasure and not a Herculean chore.